OK, I owe you an apology. That shout out was not fair. I am really trying hard not to get frustrated or angry about my situation, but last night I think it just hit me wrong.
So what situation you ask? My soon to be x seems to think my house is a hotel. This is my own fault, I know, but it doesn't make it any easier. He brought the kids back Wednesday evening, and with them brought his computer, which he promptly set up in my basement. OK, so I don't usually go down there, but the fact that it is down, and he and Andrew are usually down there playing games on his computer (24/7!!) is driving me crazy. Really, I don't think it's a jealousy issue, it is a child raising issue. One of the many reasons he is soon to be my X!!!!
Then, he camps out on my couch. Fine. Better than my bed, yes. He claims he is looking for an apartment here in town so that he can finish school and get a job. But, in the 3 days he has been here, he has picked up one paper, and as far as I know, made not even 1 (ONE!) phonecall. I have let him stay here so he can visit the kids, but I don't ever remember telling him since I filed anyway that he could live here. I seriously don't know how to handle this. I want to bash hiscomputer into pieces!! I want him out. I want my house and my kids back to myself. I'm not being a good share-er, and I have the right to pout about it!
Right now, he's at school. He told me yesterday he will be going to school today, Tues, Wed, Thurs and Sat. So, I guess that means he will be staying here through Sat. Sun they are supposed to leave for Florida to spend a few weeks with his mom. But what if he doesnt' have an apartment and comes back in July and wants to camp out again? I am ALMOST to the point I feel I can tell him no. Almost. But being the stupid softy I am, I want him to be able to see the kids. I want him to be able to see Andrew's baseball games every week. I want him to be a part of their lives. I just don't want him living here!!!
That's all. I'm taking deep breaths. I will get through this. I will. Thanks for caring enough to read my whole rant. Back to positive chaos next time!
What, so he won't move to the same town as you to stay married, but he will when you divorce him??! Grrrr!
ReplyDeleteI know you're a softy (and so am I so I know what you're going through) but once again he's trying to take advantage of you :(
Missy, I agree with "kez". I think he will stay living with you as long as he can. I know he isn't good with timelines, but you need to set down some sort of time that he has to be out. Either in his own place or back in Iowa. We'll talk more tomorrow at school. Luv ya!!
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